Monthly Archives: April 2007

A Lesson From The Massacre At Virginia Tech

     I am “the proud mother of a deployed American paratrooper,” and because of that fact I have, perhaps, a unique perspective on the massacre at Virginia Tech.  
     As a mother I, of course, thought about how horrendous this whole nightmare is to the families of the victims as well as all the emotional damage to the survivors.  From listening to the reports on this heinous occurrence, I heard repeatedly that the shooter had to reload several times and went from classroom to classroom.  As a military mom, I immediately wished that our young people had the same obligation and experience that all young folks in Israel have: two years of military training and service.  Those reloading and trolling periods were windows of opportunity that only young folks trained militarily would have been able to use to subdue or terminate the perp and save many lives. Continue reading

Don Imus’ Verbal Assault… But What About The Others?

It is understandable that I have received a lot of inquiries about my reaction to Don Imus’ problem, as I am also a radio talk show host (32 years) who has taken flack for “objections” to my point of view.

The main problem with Imus’ comments is that they were in no way taken out of context – they were a direct assault on a group of women for whom the words did not match the reality.  In fact, as a woman, and as a woman often under public attack, I am so very proud of the statement given by one of the Rutgers University basketball players: Continue reading

But I Don’t “FEEL” Like It!

“But why should I have to do ‘X’ when I don’t feel like it?”

That is by far the single most expressed sentiment to excuse oneself from fulfilling obligations to others. Feelings have been elevated from the mercurial and temporary to positions of absolute truth and power. “I feel that…” is most always used when one actually is expressing thoughts, beliefs, opinions, guesses, and concerns.

One of the most typical problems in marriages is not religion, politics or finances – it’s the issue of sexuality. For the most part, the pattern is that a man and woman have a great out-of-wedlock sexual relationship, full of passion and spontaneity. Once married, and especially once children come on the scene, too many women “feel” less and less like being their husband’s lover and girlfriend. I have talked to hundreds, if not thousands, of women over the more than thirty years I’ve been on radio, and the story is always the same: “I’m just too tired…or…annoyed to feel like having sex.” I ask them what they expect their husbands to do. “Be understanding,” they say. Continue reading

Encouraging Women To Do The Wrong Thing

First, full disclosure. Years ago, a journalist from Vanity Fair called me. She was supposedly friends for 20 years with my then-chief of staff, and wanted to interview me. And having some brains in my head (I don’t trust this stuff), I asked my associate about her, and she said “Y’know, she’s been a friend of mine; I’ll vouch for her.” So, I said ‘OK, I’ll call her, feel it out, and then make a decision.’

I called her, and she gave me a line of lies (that I found out later were a line of lies) about how I was a cultural phenomenon and she wanted to study this sociologically, and understand the points of view about how they became popular (but they weren’t), and she gave me this whole line, and I thought “OK, I like the point of view; she’s supposedly friends with my chief-of-staff who has known her and says she’s a decent person,” and I agreed to do it. Continue reading