Monthly Archives: January 2008

When A Man Isn’t Loved By A Woman

I got these two emails the other day, and they came in almost back to back.  And I’m sad to say that I “get” it.  You’re going to be horrified. 

Kristen wrote: “My best friend and I were in the car the other day and heard a radio advertisement for a new dating service  (more like a disservice). It isn’t your typical dating site, no, no; this site is for those looking to commit adultery. Their slogan? ‘When Monogamy Becomes Monotony.’ The tab on my internet browser even labeled it ‘Married Dating.’ Apparently dating these days isn’t just for single folks anymore.  The first thing that popped into my head was, ‘Boy I wonder how long it will take for someone to call Dr. Laura to tell her how they found this site on their spouse’s ‘favorites’ list.’ What a shame!

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Sex and Grades

London’s Daily Mail reports that a Cambridge University study has found that the more sex partners students have, the lower their grades.  The online study was published in the student magazine Varsity, and compiled results based on answers from more than 1,000 Cambridge University students.

The study found that medical students were among those with the most sexual partners, and that mathematicians had the fewest partners.

It’s scary to think that the average physician’s learning efforts dropped with his/her increased number of sexual partners.  I wonder if that will be one of the questions listed on the online physicians’ assessments available for public view?

Facebook Breakup Revisited

In response to my blog on the degeneration of interpersonal relationships through Facebook, MySpace, and the swell of gossip media outlets, I got this from Paul French:

You are so correct.  My wife came across a great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that I believe explains a lot of this:  ‘Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.’

Thanks, Paul!

Planned UN-Parenthood

Frankly, calling abortion (the termination of a life within a woman’s uterus) “reproductive health,” is a ridiculous – but effective – way of obfuscating the realities.  A January 18 report from the Associated Press (which excludes California because its government does not provide data) estimates that in 2005 there were 1.2 million abortions – down from a peak of 1.6 million abortions in 1990, but still happening in 20% of the cases where conception has occurred.

Half of the 1.2 million U.S. women who have abortions each year are 25 and older, while only 17% are teenagers.  Since abortion became legal, there have been roughly 50 million abortions in the US, and more than one-third of adult women are estimated to have had at least one. Continue reading

Quote of the Week

I get thousands of emails, letters and faxes every week.  They can be funny, sobering, trivial, deep.  Every once in a while one comes in that just takes my breath away.  This is one of those:

“I am terminally ill with cancer.  I AM GOING TO BE HAPPY EVERY DAY.  Life is a very great gift.  I am very grateful for each day.  Even if all you get in life is one sunrise or one sunset; life is a fantastic present. I DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR MY HAPPINESS.”

She asked me not to use her name.

Heath Ledger and Tragic Death

I want to begin this blog by offering my deepest and most sincere condolences to the family and friends of Heath Ledger, the young movie star found dead this week in his apartment.  The point of view of this blog does not in any way intend to minimize the loss, hurt, and emotional suffering of those with whom he was close.

However, the amount of media attention to this tragedy does seem excessive to some, while the heroically tragic sacrifices of other talented and brave young Americans go unnoticed.  A “Blue Star Mother” (an organization of mothers who now have, or have had, children honorably serving in the military bluestarmothers.org) wrote to me:

“In listening to the recent press hysteria surrounding Heath Ledger’s death, I can’t help but contrast that with the ultimate sacrifice our troops make every day with no fanfare.

My son, a Specialist with the Army 25th ID, is stationed in Taji, Iraq.  Last Friday he witnessed the death of his very good friend, Specialist Jon Schoolcraft, age 26, to an IED, not to mention the grievous wounds sustained by others in the same attack.  I would ask your listeners to log onto the DoD website (defenselink.mil/Releases/ ) just once to see the names and ages of the brave young men and women who have made the ultimate sacrifice for their country.  Better yet, turn off the gossip channels on the TV and Internet and write a letter or send a care package to the troops to let them know they’re not forgotten.

God Bless you, Dr. Laura, for all you do for our troops.  I too am a Proud Mother of an American Soldier…Hoo-ah!” 

I believe that a civilization is measured in great part by what it chooses to honor.

Journal of My Trip to Portland Oregon

You could tell who the “visitors” were in Portland this past weekend.  We were the only ones using umbrellas…Portlanders simply go on with their lives as if water were not draining from the sky.
     It was a great trip.  I arrived Thursday and stayed at The Benson Hotel on Southwest Broadway.  Friday morning we drove to KATU-TV where I had a fun interview about “In My Never To Be Humble Opinion,” my one woman show that we did on Friday and Saturday night at the lovely Newmark Theater at the Portland Center for the Performing Arts.  
     After the television interview, I arrived at KEX AM 1190 for an unbelievably moving Native American ceremony performed by Marshall Tall Eagle and his wife and granddaughter.  They presented me with a “Mother’s Medal of Honor,” in recognition of my being “the proud mother of a deployed American paratrooper.”  Marshall Tall Eagle’s special status among the tribes gave him the power to assign an “Indian” name to a “civilian.”  He told me he’d prayed about it and was told what name to use for me:  “Walks with Warriors.”  No question that I loved getting that name! Continue reading

Happiness is NOT the Highest Value

Earlier this week, I got a call from a 36 year old woman who has been “shacking up” with her boyfriend for four years.  She wants to have children, but senses his ambivalence.  The answer I gave her applies to all the otherwise intelligent women who do this.

You should move out and say “I’ve decided I’ve made a horrible mistake and the next time I’m living under the same roof as a man, I’m going to be his wife!”
You don’t demand anything.  You don’t threaten anything. You act like a dignified woman, instead of an unpaid whore.  It’s as simple as that.  A man who loves and respects a woman wouldn’t treat you like that.

When I asked this caller “What would you tell your son?” at first, she didn’t understand that I was raising a hypothetical question about how she would explain this behavior to her “future” child.  She started to say, “Well, if you’re both happy, and you’re both-” and I immediately cut in and said she should not make babies.  If you’re going to do that to your kid, don’t have any.  If you’re going to tell your daughter “…as long as you’re happy and you’re screwing your brains out every night with a guy who doesn’t want to commit his life to you, it’s all okay!” – we don’t need any more parents like that. Continue reading