Good, honest, hardheaded character is a function of the home. If the proper seed is sown there and properly nourished for a few years, it will not be easy for that plant to be uprooted. — George A. Dorsey, anthropologist
Reuters’ Julie Steenhuysen wrote a news essay recently which was a real shocker. She quoted Janis Wolak of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire in Durham:
A lot of the characterizations that you see in Internet safety information suggest that sex offenders are targeting very young children and using violence and deception against their victims….
Especially since social networking sites became popular, people are suggesting that these offenders are using information to stalk and abduct their victims. We are not seeing those types of cases. The great majority of cases we have seen involved young teenagers, mostly 13, 14, 15 year old girls who are targeted by adults on the Internet who are straightforward about being interested in sex.
From the perspective of the victim, these are romances.
Among the study’s other findings:
* Internet offenders pretended to be teenagers in only 5% of the crimes studied.
* Nearly 75% of victims who met offenders did so more than once.
* Youths at risk have “buddy lists” including strangers, and they discuss sex online with strangers.
* Boys who are gay or questioning their sexuality are more susceptible to Internet-initiated sex crimes than other populations, resulting in 15% of criminal cases.
Other than religious institutions, there is virtually nothing in our society that elevates sexuality to a spiritual status. This is the result of a society which takes kids out of school (without parental notification) for abortions; which has peer sex classes showing how to put condoms on bananas; which has “sex fairs” at major colleges and universities; which has porn as mainstream, primetime television and advertising; which has practically naked models in store windows for Abercrombie & Fitch and Victoria’s Secret; which has families repeatedly torn apart by busy, “two parent career” homes, divorce, re-marriage, shack-ups, and other adult misbehaviors that emotionally devastate children who look elsewhere for love and comfort.
What is normalized is yearned for by children who want to be “adults.”
Last Thursday, I posted a blog about “passing the trash,” a practice known within the educational system in which teachers who’ve allegedly engaged in sexual misconduct with a student resign and leave their school districts in exchange for confidentiality about their behavior. I received many comments about that story, but this is one I want to share with you. I’ve kept the writer’s name confidential:
Dr. Laura, as a former administrator of a small school district, let me tell you who the real villains are in these cases. No school administration will admit it, but it’s the teacher’s union. It’s like going up against the mob, to come against one of their members. And they don’t care if their member is guilty or not. They will use every tactic in the book to intimidate you into dropping your complaint. Any time an administration tries to discipline teachers or even look into a complaint, the union is there fighting the administration. They file lawsuits and nit pick at your procedures. The teachers have free counsel and unlimited representation, covered by their dues. Just to inquire into a complaint, the school [incurs] a great deal of cost, precious money that has to be taken from some other program or someone else’s pocket.
These types of complaints are the duty of the school board, and school boards are made up of volunteers – they don’t get paid, but they can get sued, and must defend themselves with their own money. It is a fight to correct an untenured teacher, and in fact, there is no way to fire or discipline a tenured one.
We had a horrid teacher (and many complaints), and we tried everything under the sun to get him away from kids. He had his ego stroked by being mean to kids. We tried to pay him off and offer him early retirement, but he wouldn’t go. We were a small district with limited funds. Eventually, the school had to close, and the man finally lost his job. And no one around would hire him. Our teacher was not a molester, but he was a “demeaner” – he enjoyed insulting kids.
Although I do not agree with what these schools have done, I am not surprised. If you have no proof that would hold up in court and kids who don’t want to officially testify, but you know in your heart that this person has done these things, the teacher’s union will spread [the word] that your school district is being very unfair to the teachers, and…will turn the hearing into a circus. As parents and board members, you will do whatever it takes to get them out of your school – and hopefully, away from kids.
The Boston Herald (February 25) reported that, in 2007, a record number of newborn babies were given up by their parents (in reality, probably just the mother) under Massachusetts’ Baby Safe Haven program.
The law came to pass after state Representative Barry R. Finegold (D-Andover) proposed the bill, which would allow a parent to legally surrender a baby, aged 7 days or less, at a hospital, police station, or manned fire station without facing criminal prosecution. In other words, under certain conditions, Massachusetts legalized child abandonment.
Honestly, I cannot understand the critics of this law. They argue that the law creates an “easy out” for reluctant mothers. Darn straight! The fact is that these girls and women didn’t legally kill the baby in their bodies, nor did they abandon them in a dumpster or toilet. They knew that they couldn’t raise a child and had an option which contributed to the well-being of that child and the adoptive family.
Another criticism is that this strips children of their heritage. Are you kidding? Since when does one’s place on a genetic family tree trump a loving home environment? They also say that this law promotes irresponsibility. What?? What is more responsible than giving a child over to people who will arrange for the child to be loved and nurtured, when they know they cannot?
The Department of Social Services, which oversees the Safe Haven program reports that the Baby Safe Haven hotline has helped thirty women to get into a parenting or adoption plan. They also said that “parents give up their babies for various reasons, including post-partum psychosis, emotional immaturity, and social isolation.” Whatever the reasons, the woman is still making a conscious choice to “save” her baby from her own emotional and social problems. I say these women are heroes.
Once Mom and Dad have covered the $45,000 for room, board and tuition at Yale University, the students get to compete free to win a porn-star “look-alike” contest as part of the school’s “Sex Week,” which also includes learning and using various sex toy gadgets and tips on making your dorm room a college love pad.
The rationale, as we’ve often heard before, is that they’re probably gonna “do it” anyway, and this way, they’ll have information on how to do it properly. You mean there’s a “proper” way to hook up? Oh, yeah, use a condom for your genitals. But what do you do for your soul and psyche after misusing your sexuality so frivolously?
Let’s hear it for the reputation of “Yalies” who come to school to become leaders. There are those at Yale who are not so amused:
“Call me a curmudgeon, but I find that my daily ritual of waking up with a cup of coffee, a cigarette, and a copy of the Yale Daily News is a little less pleasant when a smiling freshman holding a” [sexual aid too graphic to mention] “is staring back at me from the front page…” — Blogger Will Wilson wrote on the Yale Free Press blog. (FoxNews.com, 2/15/08).
Seems that Yale is just trying to keep up with the other “party” schools.