If I were any more disgusted with modern parenting my head would explode. I just about screamed so loudly that they could hear me in Dallas, where the Dallas Morning News published a piece with the headline: “Social Networking Sites Cater to Moms and Babies.” What? What? What? Internet social networking for babies? What the heck does that even mean?
I’ll tell you what it means: it’s another self-centered, insensitive, lazy, neglectful way for most mothers to pretend they actually care about their children and are making the sacrifices and efforts to give kids what the kids NEED.
Here’s a great comment from the article: “The messages, of course, are from parents, usually moms, who say sites such as TotSpot provide them with TIME-SAVING ALTERNATIVES to PLAY DATES and FACE-TO-FACE RELATIONSHIPS…” [Note: The capitalization is mine].
So let me understand this…these so-called mothers spend time on the computer posting pictures and descriptions of their kids to virtual strangers (which we now call virtual “friends”) and get texted back with the saying, “You’ve been tickled,” and they assume that this in any way serves any need for any baby or toddler?
Other equally ridiculous mothers (and all these women actually gave their real names…is there no shame?) are quoted as saying that they don’t have time (what happened to MAKING time) for actual play dates…this way they can connect with moms and kids without leaving the house or the office.
Since when were play-dates only about the moms? I always thought play-dates were about introducing children – FACE TO FACE – to other children, adults, environments, pets, experiences, and so forth. I didn’t realize play-dates were just “jabber jabber” time for busy busy women who seem to wish to live in a virtual world rather than the concrete one their children will have to deal with eventually. These are probably the kind of women who get crazed when their husbands choose to do the same with naked women on the internet.
Aside from the oh so obvious problems with parents putting information about children on the internet (a pedophile’s play land), it directs children (from the time they’re infants and toddlers) toward a life on the computer instead of in the park, the back yard, the street, a friend’s home, etc.
Many of the parents spoke about being “proud” of their babies and wanted to show them off and have them – even before they can burp on their own – have their very own social web page. This is so utterly pathetic.
This is all about three things:
1. FEELING, versus BEING connected.
2. FAKING being a parent who nurtures, protects, teaches, and loves by a web page
3. SHOWING off your child and text-gossiping
Let me go back to that one most damning statement in the Dallas Morning News piece: “The messages, of course, are from parents, usually moms, who say sites such as TotSpot provide them with time-saving alternatives to play dates and face-to-face relationships, while helping them connect with parents and children in nontraditional ways.”
We’ve come a long way, baby…we’ve become women…mothers…who are too busy to introduce our kids to life. Great.