I understand that Ann Coulter – not a woman to mince words – has been on numerous radio and television programs pointing out that most of the children and young adults with all sorts of emotional, educational, criminal, and relationship problems are the product of un-wed mothers. While on the television program “The View,” the one conservative co-host challenged Ms. Coulter by suggesting that this is the problem because of the men who walk away from their responsibilities. The audience went wild with enthusiasm, undoubtedly happy that the “blame” moved from women to men.
Frankly, my friends – that really doesn’t wash. Of course a man should feel and be morally responsible and obligated to the children of his loins. However, women’s bodies are the place where the creation and gestation of new life occurs – which gives them the greater obligation to be circumspect about when and with whom they have sexual intercourse. Many women, lesbian or heterosexual, are having babies without the participation of a father in the child’s life … on purpose! Many women have abortions against the wishes of the man who would be “father.” The situation is therefore quite complicated.
Yet the fact remains: the optimal circumstance in which to raise a child is in the bosom of a married mom and dad. Facts are facts, in spite of emotions. That there are exceptions gives hope to the few, and ignores the pain of the many.
I hold women more accountable for the well-being of children because they have the majority of the power; legally, physiologically, and emotionally.