Out-of-wedlock sex is just no big deal anymore. It’s even the basic plot of many television sitcoms, making it seem like a royal good time. After all, isn’t sex just a natural instinct and desirable physical release? If you have an itch, it should be scratched, right? At least that’s what I see my dog Bebe do when she clearly has an itchy paw.
Religious teaching be damned. There should be no guilt about a good romp in the hay that is meaningless, whether extra-marital or non-marital. Why the big fuss?
Well, let’s see. We can throw in the “fuss” basket some of the following:
1. Sexually-transmitted diseases, some of which can kill.
2. Unwanted pregnancies, some of which we can kill or raise without a complete and loving home with two parents, who have a sacred covenant called marriage.
Of course, there’s also the unexpected consequence of realizing that very little out-of-wedlock sex has any meaning whatsoever after so many such experiences. Women feel used and desperate; men feel crass and disappointed. And never mind the hurt feelings that come from ultimate rejection when one gets bored and the other underestimates what being sexually intimate results in with regard to feeling about themselves and their life.
This all leads up to the fact that the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has been ordered by a federal judge to allow 17 year old girls (not women) to have Plan B, the morning-after pill, without a prescription, as it is available to those over 18. This has been an ideological issue, as some folks wish for girls (married or not) to have no impediment to “expressing their sexuality” with the back-up of the morning-after pill, as well as abortion.
This is astonishing to me, considering all the medical and emotional issues that surround sexuality.
The morning-after pill is a contraceptive that reduces the chance of pregnancy if taken within three days after sexual intercourse. It contains a high dose of birth control drugs. The pill works by preventing ovulation or by interfering with implantation of a fertilized egg.
I’m just sad that girls, often having sex with adult males, figure it’ll all be okay without a condom, because the adult male reminds them that “there is always Plan B or an abortion.” Not to worry…no big deal.
Well, over 32 years of a radio call-in program has provided me proof that there is no easy fix for the feelings of guilt, loss, being used, and multiple meaningless sexual experiences. I, for one, am sad that we keep opening the door wider and wider for women and men to feel less and less responsibility and awe about each other. No wonder anti-depressants are among the best-selling drugs in America.