Tiger Woods is getting back to playing golf. He’ll be participating in the Masters 2010 in Augusta, Georgia beginning April 5. I know a lot of people are happy about that, because they like to watch him play, and without him, the interest in golf apparently diminished, with enterprises associated with audience interest taking a great financial hit since he’s been away from the game.
Frankly, I don’t care one way or the other.
Nonetheless, NYDailyNews.com had a lengthy article focusing on Tiger’s “confessions.” Evidently, he said he “was living a lie.” Well, that’s true. He was making lotsa money presenting himself as a clean-cut family guy, all the while arrogantly flying girls around the world to meet him for “sex breaks.”
He also said “Yeah, I tried to stop, and couldn’t stop.” WHAT??? Where does the word “couldn’t” come from? The only irresistible impulse is one which is not resisted. He enjoyed that very enticing perk of fame and money: the adoration of women and lot of varied sex. There’s nothing new here in the history of mankind.
Once you cross that line, however, it gets easier and easier to feel as though you are safe and entitled, and it becomes a bigger and bigger part of your everyday life – whether your obsession is sex partners or donuts.
I’m disgusted that Tiger Woods is being yet another bad role model (“the devil made me do it, and I had to exorcise the devil in rehab”). To me, he is still lying. He could control his impulse any time he wanted to, but he didn’t want to. The risk-taking was exciting, and the orgasms and feeling of sexual control over women was way too thrilling for him to decide to give up. He’s giving it up now because it ended up costing him big-time. See? The decision was made when the math came out different from before.
In my book, Tiger Woods won’t change until he takes responsibility. In his comments, he also said that “stripping away denial and rationalization, you start coming to the truth of who you really are, and that can be very ugly.” True enough. And he should say the truth: that he enjoyed the perks, but that the trade-off ultimately wasn’t worth it.