I consider day care (outside of emergency backup) a form of child neglect, and definitely one of society’s ills, as mothers are being universally reinforced to turn their babies, toddlers, and small children over to institutionalization instead of loving parental contact for most of the day.
One of you emailed to me a link to a website called Daycares Don’t Care…How Can A Daycare Love? It’s at www.daycaresdontcare.org. Here’s a sample of what’s on their homepage:
“Everyone knows it’s true, but almost everyone is afraid to say it: day care institutions don’t care about or love your child like you do. For years, many experts have been warning us about the detrimental consequences for children placed in day care. This website contains an extensive index of publications about the problems with day care from well-known child development authorities, psychologist, psychiatrists, pediatricians, public policy analysts, sociologists, day care providers, and others.
This collection of day care information seeks to counterbalance the relentless pressure placed upon parents to abandon their children to these impersonal institutions.
These findings show no amount of legislation, government funding, money, early childhood training, regulations or inspections can make a day care LOVE your child.
Additionally, this website is intended to encourage and affirm those parents who have made the choice to avoid day care and care for their own children – a choice that too often has been criticized and devalued by many in our society.”
Did you see Toy Story 3, about a group of toys escaping from the hellish “Sunnyside Day Care?” One of the toys says “Day care is a sad place.”
This website is wonderful, and filled with important information you need to know for your own well-being as well as your child’s. We’ve heard enough of media complaining about a “day care crisis” instead of a “home care crisis,” and enough of politicians pushing for more government day care subsidies versus tax breaks for at-home parenting. We’ve had enough of people extolling the benefits of institutionalized child care while disdaining at-home parental involvement. Enough!
Do check out www.daycaresdontcare.org, and help yourself and the next mom out there who could benefit from your pro-family activities by feeling supported in doing what should come naturally: loving your child versus watching them on a nannycam.