Monthly Archives: October 2010

Quote of the Week

When witches go riding,
and black cats are seen
The moon laughs and whispers,
’tis near Halloween
               – Author Unknown
                 From a 19th century Halloween postcard

Have a happy and safe Halloween on Sunday.

Halloween Moon

Law School Student Wants His Tuition Back

A third-year Boston College Law School student facing dismal job prospects and a mountain of student loan debt has offered the prestigious law school a unique deal:  keep the degree, and give him back his tuition!

Good gracious, here’s another example of the generation of young people who:

1.  Buy something they can’t afford (in this case, tuition), and then complain about the debt.

2. Expect that since they showed up, there should be a party (or at least the job of their dreams).

With the housing situation as it is (people buying homes they couldn’t afford), you’d think their kids would “get” it:  if you can’t pay, don’t dance.  Investing in your own future does not mean that the dividends will be easily gotten.

It’s not that there isn’t a need for legal experts, it’s just these young adults have the notion they should start at the top, instead of putting out a shingle and helping people as best they can while working up and perhaps looking toward being in a larger firm.  No, instead of that kind of thinking, the mentality today is:  “I put in three years of my life and took on huge loans….Now I AM ENTITLED to the brass ring.”

We’re not adequately teaching our children humility, patience and a work ethic.  Getting an education is a stepping stone, but it does not come with a GPS – we all have to meander a bit.  Pay dues. Get real life experience, struggle and sacrifice, and then – maybe – we’ll get exactly what we want.

Here’s another take:  a man goes up a mountain in Tibet to talk to the wisest man on the earth.  He reaches the summit, finds the old guy, and asks “Which way is success?”
The guru points in a direction.  The man, all excited, climbs down the mountain and rushes in that direction.  SPLAT!  He comes up against a wall.
He’s upset, but figures he made a mistake somehow and then goes back up the mountain to the guru and asks again:  “Which way is success?”
Again, the guru points off into the distance.  The man comes down the mountain and again attempts the journey.  SPLAT!  He is exhausted, starving, frustrated, and getting angry.

He goes back up the mountain and yells at the guru:  “I asked which way is success twice.  I followed your directions…twice!  I’m tired, hungry, frustrated, and very, very angry.  Now, old man, “WHICH WAY IS SUCCESS?”

This time, the guru spoke:  “It is that way – a little past SPLAT.”

YouTube Pulls Anti-Abortion Ad

Missy Smith is running for Washington D.C. delegate to the U.S. House of Representatives.  She is running against incumbent Eleanor Holmes Norton and claims to have the backing of the Tea Party movement.
What is most interesting about this candidacy?  She is running largely as an anti-abortion candidate.  She runs a 30 second ad which will air 24 times on local broadcast network affiliates across the greater Washington, D.C. metropolitan area, preceded by a 15 second warning that was added by the station’s administrators.
Her 30 second ad was pulled from YouTube, posting a notice that it amounted to a “violation of YouTube’s policy on shocking and disgusting content.”

What is the ad?  It’s 30 seconds of still photos of aborted babies.  Missy Smith’s voiceover admits to her having had two abortions:

“I was told it’s not a baby.  They lied to me. They exploited me.  Then I learned the truth and I’ve suffered for years.  And believe me, I am angry.  My heart has been ripped out.  Obama, Pelosi, Reid, Norton…they all support the murder of babies and the abuse of women by abortion.  It’s time to make child-killing illegal again.”

I’ve been rolling around in my mind YouTube’s comment on “shocking and disgusting.”  Yes, the murder of innocent babies in the womb is shocking and disgusting in a civilized society.  Dead babies ripped apart aren’t really pretty.  But it is the truth.
If it’s really that gruesome, should it be a “right?”

We can have daily abortions by the thousands.  Why can’t we look at what it is exactly that’s happening?

I went on YouTube and explored by using words like “shocking,” “disgusting,” “vulgar,” “mean,” and others.  And what happened?  Videos appeared with subjects like atrocious sexual exploits with links to sites with “more more more,” fart compilations, squeezing pus from boils, and a snake eating a hamster.

I agree with YouTube that using stills of aborted children amounts to “shocking and disgusting content.”  I challenge every single Planned [un]Parenthood clinic to show women coming in for abortions these photos, and THEN let them choose.  I challenge every high school to show photos of aborted babies the same way they show horrible shots of car accidents to alert young people to the dangers of drunk driving.

It is shocking and disgusting to me and many others that people find it just fine to murder babies in their bodies without seeing the sonograms of their babies moving in their womb, without looking at photos of the baby at the level of development of theirs, and without seeing the final result of the abortion.
Choosing without being totally informed is not really make a choice. It is hiding from actually making a choice.

Unwanted babies are wanted by some other family.

If a continuation of a pregnancy threatens the life of the mother, abortion would be reasonable in self-defense.  If a continuation of a pregnancy will result in a baby that will certainly die shortly after birth, in compassion, an abortion would be reasonable.  But to waste a perfectly good baby over disinterest, inconvenience, embarrassment, and even economics is really shocking and disgusting.

You can find Missy Smith’s website at  Check it out.

Sometimes truth hurts.

Colleague Deserves Respect

A high school teacher called me because she was so agitated she didn’t know what to do to calm herself down.  She called me, because she was convinced in her own mind that I would not only agree with her, but give her a course of action to follow.

She’d been working at her current school for four years.  At a meeting of all the teachers, they were informed that the parking lot would no longer have reserved spaces for each instructor – from now on, it would be “first come, first served.”

A teacher with over twenty years seniority on the caller stood and said that this new rule was nonsense and he expected to have the “front and center” parking space he’d always had.  My caller was furious and thought the other teacher was arrogant.

This is an ugly trend in our society and in our schools:  the trend to rob people of respect for their accomplishments.  School systems have tried to do away with grades and eliminate honors for those students who excel, all in the name of “everyone is equal and no one’s feelings should be hurt.”

My caller resented that her co-worker would receive any benefits because of his outstanding, long service to the school.  Shame on her!

I told her that I would have immediately stood up to support him and all the other teachers with long tenure.  They should be treated with respect, regard, deference and support, including having the right to the parking space to which they had become accustomed.  The caller was shocked at my point of view.  She asked me if I thought it was arrogant of him to demand that space.  On the contrary, I told her, “it is arrogant of YOU to think you rate his parking space when you haven’t earned it!”

We are all equal in the sight of God; we are all equal in the sight of the law.  We are NOT all equal in our abilities, accomplishments, efforts, and/or experiences, and those differences should be admired and supported without any attempt to dilute their importance because of envy, laziness, unfortunate circumstances or any excuse to resent what others are or what they have.

We all benefit from holding each other up when it is earned.

Quote of the Week

I never knew a man come to greatness or eminence who lay abed late in the morning.
               – Jonathan Swift
                 Anglo-Irish satirist and essayist
                 1667 – 1745

No Excuse for Chronic Lateness

There are lots of ways to show others disrespect.  One very typical example of disrespectful behavior is being chronically late.  Oh, people have lots of excuses:  the dog, the computer, the kid, the traffic, the moon spots, and, of course “stuff happens.”

I’m not talking about an isolated event.  I’m talking about a pattern of behavior.  Being chronically late not only messes up plans, it hurts feelings.  I believe more often than not, chronic lateness is passive-aggressive behavior.  That means the individual who is always late is saying (in code):  “I am more important than you; you can’t tell me what to do; you are not in control of me; I will do what I wish to do,” and more.  Instead of saying all this directly, however, the behavior says it while the conversation is one of “Oh, I’m sorry.  I tried to make it on time.”  The meaning behind the behavior is the “aggression,” and the attempt to make it seem accidental is the “passive” part.

It is also true many folks just pile too much into a day to properly handle all their responsibilities; such anxiety-directed personalities find themselves always up to their eyeballs in too many self-selected obligations, responsibilities, busy work, promises, desires, and on and on and on.

And now, people can email and text and call from a little hand phone.  They very likely feel less and less upset about being late and making others wait because  (they rationalize) “At least I’m letting them know of my progress.”  None of that, however, changes the frustration, disappointment and hurt in the hearts and minds of those left waiting…and waiting…and waiting.

Relationships have been lost over this misbehavior, and rightfully so.  Friendships are supposed to be reciprocal in interest, thoughtfulness, compassion and respect.  When they are consistently lopsided, it is no longer a healthy friendship.

I had a friend who was chronically late.  Nonetheless, we planned to go to an event together.  I warned her most clearly:  “If you are not here at the stroke of 7 or before, turn your car around.  I’ll be gone, probably permanently.”  This friend was there about 30 seconds before 7.
Rules and expectations and consequences have to be considered.  It’s one thing to be disrespected by someone; it is quite another to constantly permit it to happen.  This just gives the chronic “latester” more permission to repeat the behavior.  Remember, I’m not talking about unavoidable circumstances.  I am  talking about patterns of behavior.

Think of the Child, Not Yourself

I’m getting more and more scared for our country and our society.  The attitudes and behaviors which were once marginalized are now becoming mainstream, tearing apart the fabric of families and the well-being of individuals.

You may remember my comments about Jennifer Aniston’s movie “The Switch,” which focused on parenthood via donor insemination.  Well, she had a bit of a tussle with Bill O’Reilly, who said in August that Aniston’s comments on women’s ability to become mothers without men were “destructive to our society.”
He was right.

What is this feminist, liberal rush to eliminate dads from the life of children?  We already know the promiscuity of little girls and the sociopathic behavior of little boys in families without a dad.  The agenda of “I am woman, hear me roar” is louder than the factual necessity of a dad in the lives of children?  How could that happen? reported that Melissa Singer  “always knew she didn’t want to get married.  It wasn’t that she didn’t like men or relationships; she just never felt the desire for constant partnership.  What she did want, however was a child.” The New York City woman is quoted as saying: “Motherhood was the thing I wanted to do most in the world.  I wanted to have a child.  I wanted to be able to pass along the traditions that my family had.  I wanted to be able to give my parents a grandchild.”

So she went to the local sperm bank.  Her child is now 14, and doesn’t have a daddy, because mommy was (in my opinion) too controlling and narcissistic to marry for the sake of the child.

Eric Blyth, a professor of social work in a British university told LifeScience that “I could never really see that there was such a big difference certainly from the child’s point of view between adoption and donor conception, in terms of children knowing where they come from.”

Good Lord, is he kidding?  An adoption to a two-parent, “mom and dad” family has the same impact that the knowledge that there really is no dad – just sperm from a laboratory??  On what planet does he think this could possibly be true?

This does point out, however, that agenda trumps facts more and more these days.

Through the lens of Hollywood, we’re mainstreaming behavior which hurts children and society, while positioning that behavior as equal to or even superior to traditional attitudes.  We have movies about confusion as to whose sperm donation did the deed; we have movies about two women with one sperm donor, and the humor and warmth that comes from that situation – all in the service of redefining the family as whatever you wish it to be.

We also have several television programs depicting multiple-wife situations as a reasonable alternative to the intimacy and commitment between a man and a woman in the covenant of marriage.

Basically, ours is becoming a free-for-all society where folks can have what they want….at the expense of children.

I’ve been warning about this for three decades, only to be met with indictments of being “hateful” to the adults in these situation.

I do not hate.

I suffer the children.