When was the last time you took your kids to the airport and bought some candy and magazines? Did you notice what your kids see at their “short-eye-level” when you pay for your items? They see what they can also notice at many grocery store check-out lines and magazine racks: they see soft porn – half-naked, provocative photos of well-endowed men and women.
Now, I’m no prude. I wear jeans below my waist, and I have some belly-button “bling.” But I do believe that there ought to be such a thing as a free society maintaining its First Amendment rights, while at the same time jealously protecting the innocence of children.
A recent female caller complained that her boyfriend occasionally looked at some photos or videos of naked women on the Internet. It is unbelievable to me that, lately, there is such hysteria about men viewing naked women or male/female sexual encounters. Did somebody just discover that men are very interested in sex and are visually stimulated by viewing women’s bodies?
Of course, Internet porn can be a problem, particularly when it becomes compulsive and a substitute for real-life intimacy, or self-medication for emotional problems. However, much of the time, it is just a curious male having a stimulating moment.
I brought up to that caller that I thought the guys who do the workout ads for some of those exercise machines are “hunks,” and exciting to see. She agreed. If all I did was play a continuous loop of these ads, I’d be having a serious emotional problem. There is a huge difference between “casual,” and “compulsive.”
That said, our society has a big problem making “crass” more casual in the public square. The fashion police should arrest most of those young women with big bellies and big butts hanging over those ridiculously low-cut, tight jeans, and short, too-tight tops, as well as young men with no tops, and with their pants falling just at or below their pubic hair line. Their parents either don’t care, or have given up attempting to be leaders, or have joined the ranks of the “crass” themselves.
This society should shun malls that harbor Victoria’s Secret, Abercrombie & Fitch, and Frederick’s of Hollywood, as these are establishments which use provocative photos and displays to promote their products within clear view of families and children walking through the malls. I mean, there you are with your adolescent sons and daughters, looking up at practically naked women and men in their underwear, with seductive looks in their eyes. What are you supposed to say to your children about that?
These images tell your children that sexuality, nudity, their bodies, and intimacy are just “everyday stuff” – no big deal, certainly not private, and definitely not special. Is that the lesson you want them to learn?
One mother of a 12 year old boy wrote to me that after they came home from their town’s mall in which they personally experienced all of the stuff I’ve just mentioned, he suggested that they should do their shopping online from now on.
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Let me just start out by saying that women are not inherently dumb. But, gosh darn it, some of us do some pretty dumb things…especially in the name of “beauty.” I am charmed by the way that Joan Rivers makes fun of her own predicament with one too many way too tight face lifts on a television commercial….she grabs her face and questions whether or not she’s smiling because she can no longer feel her face to sense her own expressions. That’s funny – but the odd look of her face isn’t.
I get too many women calling my radio show wanting permission to get all sorts of things done to their bodies to seem more attractive when, in fact, their husbands couldn’t care less…they just want more loving access to their wives’ sensual bodies…imperfect or not! It rarely seems to matter that their husbands lust for them just the way they are. Astonishing.
Now women are lining up for torn tendons and ligaments as well as herniated discs by wearing higher and higher heeled and platformed shoes — 6 to 8 — inch stilettos are selling like crazy. These shoes, which feature peep-toes, have been made popular by important role models such as Victoria Beckham, Jennifer Lopez and Jessica Simpson. It would appear that women want to imitate sex symbols, without necessarily being sexual with the men who love, adore, support and protect them. So what is it? Women want to look good to other women but not their own men?
Men do like women in high-heels, because they are daring and show off the curves of a woman’s legs. In fact, the stiletto was invented in the 1950′s by Salvatore Ferragamo for the sex siren, Marilyn Monroe. However, her heels never went over 3 inches…and that somehow didn’t stop women from copying the style, or men from drooling over her image.
Having the fashion industry push the limits of shoe heel height just to start a new trend to make more money is free commerce…having women be so foolish as to respond positively is just plain dumb.
It gets dumber: some women (older but definitely not more mature), are getting injections of a cosmetic filler such as Restylane or Juvederm to plump up the balls of their feet so they can more comfortably wear these ridiculous shoes…that makes them more comfortable, but definitely not safer.
The last time women were this dumb was in the 15th century in Europe when upper-class women wore 11 inch high blocky platforms called Chopines. They had to have servants on each arm to help them walk without falling.
There may be a price to pay for beauty, as the saying goes, but the price shouldn’t be giving up good sense or good health. And I wish more women who are wives would spend more time concerned with what their husbands want to see of them than what Jessica Simpson is wobbling around on.