Here’s the scenario: you are a young woman poised to be married to a man who informs you in no certain terms that fidelity is not going to be a quality of your marriage. You’re hurt and confused. You call Dr. Laura. You ask her opinion – should you marry this man? Dr. Laura says: “HAVE YOUR TUBES TIED. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT AS AN ADULT WOMAN TO MAKE ANY CHOICE YOU WOULD LIKE (STUPID AS IT MIGHT BE), BUT I BELIEVE YOU HAVE THE MORAL OBLIGATION TO NOT IMPOSE THAT UNSTABLE, UNHAPPY, POTENTIALLY VOLATILE SITUATION ON CHILDREN.”
This discussion between South Carolina’s first lady (and soon to be ex-wife of Governor Mark Sanford) and me never took place. She went ahead, married him, made children, crossed her fingers and her eyes, blinded herself, and now she and the children are in the public eye…embarrassed.
Jenny Sanford, in an interview with Barbara Walters (yeah, I know) admits knowing in advance, saying that not having a vow of fidelity bothered her to some extent, but “I got past it.”
She is now having her 15 minutes of infamy with a tell-all book, anguishing over the emails (which went public) where her husband talked about his lover’s body parts.
I think I’m more disgusted with what she is doing now – after colluding with the charade of a marriage – than in making this choice in the first place.
In general, why do women volunteer for this kind of situation?
* They think they’re special and he will be different with her
* They believe in romantic fantasies and that love will heal all
* Dependent loyalty
* Emotional attachment
* Embarrassment at admitting a mistake
* They believe there is money or power to be gained
Mrs. Sanford is embarrassing her children and herself, which is tacky and unclassy in my opinion.